I worry about chain tension on my 2015/Glee and measure the free play before every ride. I’ve had a Scottoiler fitted from new and now approaching 40k Miles am only in my second set of C&S.
I find the only time I need to adjust it is when it comes back from service and been adjusted too tight (nearer 20, than 30 mm). On recommendation on here I always run it nearer the 30 mm as it makes for a much smoother gear change.
To help with alignment, I use the swing arm markings but then put a small led torch on the top run, just in front of the sprocket cover, and then look along the chain run from the rear. It is really obvious when the wheel is even only slightly out of line.
As for side stand/ main stand I find on the side stand it shows slightly tighter for some reason. So after getting it set and torqued up I check it on the side stand, rolling forward several times , and then mark the tightest spot.
On my pre-ride checks I do it on the main stand, measuring at the rear of the plastic rubbing guard which is just about halfway between the two sprockets, and look for it to be just under 30mm at all points I check, starting at the tight spot.
As for torquing the wheel nut, I do every time. It’s a small investment for peace of mind but bear in mind to wind the setting back to zero after each use.
I hope I’m not ‘teaching you to suck eggs’, I’m only a hobby mechanic and you will hear from lots of very capable mechanics on here.